- Are you defined by what you do or who you are?
- Before anyone labels you, how do you label yourself?
HOW YOU PRECEIVE and relate to yourself pretty much determines how others see and relate to you. For example, are you a soccer mum or a caring mum? Intellectually, we know that for someone to be a soccer mum, they must be a caring mum, right? Yet we react to the two different labels differently.
As a soccer mum, we are appreciated for what we do: the juggling of routines and activities; the organising and shepherding. However, when we see ourselves as a caring mum, others feel cherished and acknowledged; valued and nurtured. We are the same person, and it’s the same activity, but there are two different perceptions. As a result, we gain different benefits and experiences. Which perception is more fulfilling? Which is more empowering? Which allows you to adapt without losing your own identity and self-worth?
By connected to and owning our qualities and values, we find that as our roles and responsibilities change or our circumstances alter, we are anchored in a deep sense of self. We stay true to our self: authentic and free from being a mere imitation of our self.
Are you ready to be the best self, the quintessential you? If so, how do you see yourself? Do you have a clear and strong perception of yourself that informs your actions, decisions and choices? Not sure? Would like more clarity? Perhaps it’s time to revisit the following questions:
Think back and list:
- What are the positive qualities that your friends or family most often associate with you? Is there a pattern of qualities? Can you identify situations or circumstances which enabled you to express those qualities? Do you recognise them in yourself? How can you optimise using those positive qualities?
- When do you feel empowered or enthused? Can you pin-point which qualities you are expressing? What is the one main quality that is at play for you? Here’s something interesting to remember; when you feel empowered or enthused, you’re neither tired, bored, nor does your mind activate limiting beliefs that can cripple you.
- What positive qualities do you acknowledge in others that resonate with you? Did you know that you are only able to recognise the best in someone because there is an echo of that quality in you already? So, how do you see those qualities play out in your interactions or life in general?
- And finally (perhaps the one I like the most), what negative trait are you uncomfortable with? Now, what is the flip side of that quality? Such as: are you stubborn? If so, the flip side of stubbornness may be determination. Do you get angry or irritated easily? Perhaps the flip side is that you are passionate, or you care deeply. Are you accused of being lazy? The flip side could be that you are open to possibilities or are a patient person.
To acknowledge the flip side or a quality is a good start to getting closer to being your best self. The next step is to tweak your perceptions by owning them, and then actively choose to put them to work in your day to day interactions.
So as you step out today, get ready to step into the perception that empowers you; the perception that fulfils you; the perception that is anchored in your quintessential qualities.
Now all you have to do is go out into the world as the quintessential you.
Written by: Inner Space (www.innerspace.org.uk) for Yoga Magazine (Aug 2019)